What causes ungratefulness? What causes dissatisfaction? Well, I blame the word ‘norm’.
Recently there had been a discussion amongst my soon-to-be ex-college-mates about whether or not we take a gap year before venturing out into the ‘real world’. Then a chain of familiar thoughts crossed my mind, before anything even come to an end, we would think about, “so what’s next?”
School, work, marriage, then babies and retirement, if you skipped any step or reverse the order, then you’d be going against what the society decides to be the norm. But if you really think about it, there is nothing normal about human nature. To paraphrase a brilliant line from an episode of Mad Men, we are all conceived because our daddies peed inside our mommies. As disturbing as it is, that’s how life works. Depending on the circumstances, we would not disturb by the process if the end product is labeled as a miracle or a blessing. Yet, if the end product is from wedlock or a womb of a teenage girl, we call it an accident. Same process, different treatment.
I don’t really know what the point of this post is, guess I am just ranting about my frustrations with what we define as norm. It shouldn’t merely be based on the frequency of it.
If we could just, to quote Elsa, “Let it go” and let loose of our hair tie and not worry about what other people think, then we’d be much happier. Girls who are not happy to be the one who had to please, just shut out the voice of the society and provide for yourself. Guys who wants to be tied down, don’t be affected by other guys trying to use a simple ‘gay’ word to question your masculinity, and do whatever you can do to be your other half’s support system, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be the house-husband.
At the end of the day, just don’t use the peer pressure as an excuse to drag other people down into your confused, fickle-minded world. We are all confused, but only the brave ones would admit they are.
EuHoo 