The other day, a conversation between me and myself triggered a thought in my head. I am back home for the summer and I was contemplating who I should meet up with.
You see, as much as I’d like to meet up with 137 of my Facebook friends who are within driving distance, I don’t have the time and energy to put up with the whole shebang. I lead a nomadic lifestyle where friends come in and out my life so fast that I am almost numb to goodbyes. With the exception of a rare few, I see most of my friends as companions for the different phase I’m in, and when I get past that phase, so will my friends. This got me thinking… Do people in our lives have expiration dates too?
There’s a quote in the film Alex and Emma (2003) that I use to self-medicate myself when I start to miss someone who is no longer in my life. It said,
“There are some things that are nothing more than what they are, they’re not meant to last. They just take their place in your heart and make you a little smarter the next time.”
So to answer my rhetorical question, yes, some people do have an expiration date. They are those who come into your life with a mission to leave you with a valuable lesson, and once the job’s done, there really isn’t any point to drag your relationship further. Like my Statistic professor for example, she taught me that I really have no future in any sort of career that requires quantitative skills. And once I am done with the course, I see no reason for her email to be in my address book.
BUT, for those people who ARE meant to be in your life, you really don’t have to try hard to keep them in your life. In fact, you really don’t have to try at all. Doesn’t matter where you are now, or end up being, they will find a way to crawl back in your life the way chocolate magically appear in my mouth no matter how hard I try to resist them.
And the moral of my little rant is, let things be the way it is. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Of course, I’m not telling you to just go and piss everyone off thinking, “Oh, I don’t have to apologize for my shitty behavior, if it’s meant to be, those people will come back.”
I’m simply telling you is not to cry over split milk, because they are probably expired anyway.